10 ways to put yourself out there and rock it everyday!

Welcome back to "The Dirty Little Truth" aka the DLT, where we embrace the real raw reality of personal growth and empowerment.

It's been a while, I have been away working on my own healing journey. I just could not stay away because I had to share all the goods of what's been working to help me on this lifelong road. This one is special for all my spiritual and ambitious baddies (and zaddies) out there!

Okay, so we all know by now that putting yourself out there can be daunting and overwhelming and even a little scary. Especially when you have been tucked away healing or even worse, hiding, but it's the key to unlocking your true potential. Just being an adult really holds no weight to breaking your own iceberg and becoming the version of "truth" you see within yourself that no one else can.

But don't fear love, I've got you!

Let's go ahead and dive head first and really get into ten ways to conquer that fear, tackle that apprehension and embrace vulnerability, so you can truly show up for yourself & rock it in every aspect of life. By now I'm sure you can tell what I am going to say first lol. And of course it starts with being your true self...

1. Embrace Authenticity

Okay, do this quick activity with me! Look around the room and take note of every physical thing that you can see. Next, take a look at yourself... your feet, arms, clothing, posture, etc. Then silently say to yourself "I accept this moment and my place in it!" Babes, please remember that authenticity is magnetic. Be true to yourself and let your unique personality shine. And I don't care what you look like in this present time. The more genuine you are good or bad, the more people will be drawn to you. The more you can accept yourself in the real present moment of now, the more you can accept any moment you're facing in life. Practice this literally as many times as you feel you need throughout your days until it becomes habit and watch what you attract!

2. Conquer Fear of Judgment

Realize that everyone is human (your family, coworkers and even your workaholic success stricken friend who never seems to have any life issues) at some point faces insecurities. Don't let the fear of being judged hold you back. Accept that not everyone will resonate with you, and that's perfectly okay. Would you really want to be so close to someone who is actually so different from you that they act on disapproving of you?

My little DLT life hack is reminding myself that we all start as innocent and pure sweet babies. Who could deny a child? Only someone who is actively denying some part of themselves and hun, you deserve better than that type of company. Take the judgements as coins you collect to be your reasons to say "F*ck it" and do whatever you were going to do anyway... because they are still going to judge. You are in the middle of figuring life out, you're not wrong. We are all learning to get it right for ourselves. Are you really going to stop your life for a hater?

3. Challenge Comfort Zones

Babe, I learned over and over that growth happens outside of our comfort zone. It's important that you take risks, try new experiences, and face your fears head-on. That is truly how you progress your souls journey here on Earth. It's how you evolve! You'll be surprised at what you can achieve when you push your personal boundaries. Do you know what blocks and harsh boundaries that you have put up right now that you may need to bulldoze?

My DLT is that every single time I press "share" or "publish" online, whether it's a mere Facebook post, or even a twitter thread and especially my own blog, I still get so nervous and feel myself get overprotective of my thoughts. I have developed a simple for fear of not being good enough from my upbringing. But I remind myself that I am on a floating rock in space and I too am part of this thing called life and I have something to say that could possibly help someone. After all my intentions are to really help someone, so the fear then minimizes itself because, it's not that bad. True, I am not perfect but I can learn to get comfortable with pushing myself past what "feels" safe.

What can you do today to push past those pockets of cozy familiarity in your life? Be honest and stay true. You deserve this!

4. Develop Strong Communication Skills

Effective communication is vital! Hone in on your ability to articulate your thoughts and ideas clearly and respectfully. This skill will help you connect with others and make a lasting impression. OMG I definitely use this strategy when it comes to growing a brand online organically and authentically.

You want to have a voice but the truth is people have feelings and really exert them through words by taking on what you say. No matter how you say it. Start with your why. Why are you communicating? What are your intentions? What are you really here to share and what are you really trying to say? Cut the fluff and be honest, yet open and unattached to the outcome of peoples response. Stay inviting because who wants to communicate with someone who is automatically closed off to other viewpoints and learning?

I am telling you it pays to keep a student mentality and it should reflect in your communication skills. Effective communicating leads you to better form what you want to translate to others and instantly makes you feel like a winner with everyone you come across. Keep it nice and always, when in doubt be more honest!

5. Network and Build Relationships

Okay love, networking isn't just about professional connections—it's about forming genuine relationships. Invest time in getting to know people, understanding their stories, and creating a supportive community. Think about where you often congregate with others. The grocery store or at work? The same gas station you always go to? A popular website or social platform or school? Get to know the people right in your community and let them know you.

I learned firsthand from a client that I at once upon a time sucked at my follow through. LOL! I used to get so pumped up at the beginning of meeting someone and working with them or partnering up that it would fizzle out over time. I had to learn that everything in our world is comprised of some sort of consistency and repetition. It is spiritual law. So remember a major key is following up with people you meet, Ask genuine questions and be willing to leave your world for a second to get inside another's world and connect. That is truly how you form a bond and people will respect you for it. I mean, wouldn't you want the same type of care in return?

6. Own Your Strengths and Weaknesses

Take a moment to acknowledge what you're good at and what you need to work on. Leverage your strengths and be willing to improve your weaknesses like the self improvement boss you are. Self-awareness is key to personal growth. This is the golden time that you can actually use a as measurement of where you feel you are in life by taking a mini poll of people around you. Ask trusted friends, colleagues, or mentors, hell even your kids (they can be brutally honest) for feedback on your abilities, skills, and behaviors.

Constructive criticism can provide valuable insight into areas where you excel and where you may need grow. The big rule of thumb here love, is please take the feedback to your journal and you decide what the true weaknesses and strengths are withing you and then sit with yourself in full acceptance of your truth of the moment. Don't forget life is always evolving you and these new realizations about yourself will be great tools in your personal growth journey. We all saw how Eminem did in 8 mile... no one could say anything about him because he owned his weaknesses and practiced going hard on the stage. Use your "darkness" as a tool.

7. Stay Resilient in the Face of Rejection

Are you comfortable with the word no?

Understand that life is built upon the principles of laws, and within those laws is a rudimentary part of life called contrast -- Polarity. Take gravity as an example of "isness". What goes up, must come down. This also applies to facing adversities in life. This is what I like to call meeting friction. This is not a bad thing because it's a sheer opportunity to practice the "contrast" that you are as well. (Good and bad / light and darkness. Allowing and rejecting. Yes and no.) Rejection is a natural part of life. It's so loving to yourself when you learn to bounce back stronger each time, understanding that setbacks are stepping stones toward interpersonal success.

The DLT here is learning that no's work for you through a process of transmutation real time. Take the "no" and teach your mind to make it a good thing. No for a true deep desire is almost always a "not right now" from the universe vs not ever. Life is literally looking out for you on autopilot. It is in our nature to be tenacious, flexible and water-like. Be movable and allowing because you're stronger than you know. You're tougher today then you have ever been.

Here is a tool you can use to help you overcome naysayers and those who oppose your path. It's a helpful set of affirmations you can use to help reprogram your mind to accept rejection in life called "overcoming adversity" on the DLT Podcast. Enjoy!

8. Practice Self-Compassion

Be kind to yourself wild truth. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and forgive yourself for mistakes. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a close friend or true loved one. You deserve to stay in a constant flow of ease and clarity whether you are right, wrong or indifferent. We were born learning this life, not experts. Give grace to yourself so that you can learn to extend it towards others, which in today's time is a superpower! What is your go to activity that promotes self compassion and kindness to yourself? I for one love to reward myself with food. (Feel free to judge lol) Repeat: "I forgive myself, I'm here for myself, I love myself and it's truly okay".

9. Set Goals and Take Action

Babe, this is probably the most important step of them all right here. Without this step, you will be taken over by life and the worlds current. This step truly helps you key in and focus on self. Like a newborn baby, we have an innate feeling and a one tract mind to get our needs met. This propels us to pull from that instinct and zero in on action. We tend to go from thought to desire to confirmation to action, back to thought-- All in no time. Isn't it amazing how from a thought, a baby starts to crawl and talk then walk. When you tap into yourself, you can see that you have natural goals (desire) that wants to manifest themselves as your experiences. Sometimes it's a fitness goal, sometimes it's business or anything in between.

To work on this, it's best to become one with pen and paper and fall in love with goal setting. Work on getting your thoughts out onto a physical structure really helps you outline who you are, where you are and where you are headed. With detail, define your objectives and create a plan to achieve them. Take consistent, purposeful action towards your goals, and celebrate your progress along the way.

The reason this is so important is because this is your life! And there is no better way to absorb it than by having full focus on what you are doing and making a plan for what is coming next. The secret sauce and the DLT here is to remember to have fun (the most fun) with this because goal setting is your step 9 in living a life of fulfillment that you love waking up to everyday.

I'm already proud of you, you should be too! This will really help you put yourself out there in the most confident way yet... for better or worse, it's all you baby!

10. Stay Persistent and Patient

Last but you already know not the least, keep at it! Again, just like the baby example, the child doesn't just get the zeal to walk and then it all ends it there... we pretty much walk for the rest of our lives. That's why the goals you set need to come from within. That's why it's important to work with yourself to align to your truth, because you will be exercising this part of you for the rest of your life. Just agree that working on yourself and increasing your personal skills and awareness is a lifelong journey, so why not choose to work on things that make you joyful and appreciative of the life experience? The secret is were all doing this in a form, to progress the souls journey.

After all there's an old saying, Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither is personal growth. Stay persistent and patient in your journey love. Believe in yourself, keep pushing forward, and success will follow. Keep putting yourself out there and you can't lose!

Live your wild truth!

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Remember, you are capable of amazing things when you step out of your comfort zone and embrace the journey of self-discovery of truth. Keep rocking it! 💪

That's the Dirty Little Truth!

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