Is he apprehensive because I won't move? Or is he just not that into me?

YIKES! Is this a case of rose-colored glasses? Or hope gone too far? Either way, let's read the story and see the signs for ourselves...

Dear Truth,

"Soooo... I live in Cali and I recently hooked up with a guy I met in Arizona.

We went on a couple of dates... I kinda regret it, but I gave it up on the first date.

It’s been a while lol...

Anyway, he’s very attractive and we have really good chemistry. I scheduled another flight in mid-April for 2 weeks to see how it goes.

The problem is that he hardly texts me at all. I get it. He’s made it clear that he’s not leaving Arizona and my kids and grandson are here...

Mostly this is a question for the men... but I’ll take what I can get...

Is he apprehensive because it would take a lot to get me to move out of state... or is he just not that into me? Be honest, but kind... I am sensitive. lol"

What's the DLT here? We need the truth so that we can help our homegirl out.

THE DLT

Ok, so to get the dirty little truth of this matter, we always have to start with my bestie I like to call "questions". We have to get all the facts on the table before we can speculate about the man in question. Also, I'd love to add that just like all women aren't the same, neither are men. Just because we all have hard wiring called instinct and run off of that during times, we have the ability to think and feel deeper than our instincts, and placing your partner into a box is a surefire way to misinterpret what their problem may be.

Ask yourself, why am I entertaining the thought of relationships right now, is that what I really want on my plate? Sounds like things may just be lust and nothing more. There is nothing wrong with that. What gave me the notion that after the hook-up, there would be more to the union? From the info you provided, it seems as though things were not thought through enough to gauge compatibility besides the con that you two live in different states and there are your kids to consider.

He may or may not be that into you, but it's less about how he feels and the truth of the matter that affects you most. Do you even want a long-distance relationship? Do you expect him to feel more than he does from the distance and from lack of communication or hinting that he was interested in you for more than a fling? Sometimes we can get the fairytale mind from a simple thought.

I'd say keep it cool kitty cat and have fun with your life at the moment.

There might be some goodies in your own backyard you are missing out on or evading by entertaining a relationship that you don't really want. You may just be wanting a deeper relationship with yourself and to feel good about yourself physically. Revisit your image and passions at this time to help melt away the wonder of this guy and place the focus back on yourself. You got this!

Much love to you, Truth