My husband has not been communicating, what should I do?

My husband has not been communicating for the past week and half and when the weekends come, he isn't coming home. I looked on his location timeline and he was over at his child's mother home several times over the past few weekends. He always brings his son back to our place... I'm torn, alone, and numb, and pissed af! What should I do? -Lady Kp

Dear Ladii KP,

I'd like to tell you first and foremost, take a breath and definitely know that everything will be okay... and that what doesn't kill will certainly grow and improve you for the future. You deserve that much!

Whenever you are handling anything in life, from a flat tire to a job loss, to grief and relationship woes, etc, you have to remember to remain in a space of self-maintenance and personal routine. You can't forget to care for yourself hun and that includes your mood. I understand that coming to different realizations, especially about our loved ones can shock us and inhibit our feeling state, but it's best to put you first right now and cater to whatever you need for your health and peace of mind. You need space, and clearly so does he.

Now, what's the DLT?

Truth is, a man that isn't communicating and being cold most likely has had a "change of heart" and is probably hurt and tired of the dynamic. What would make him want to stay away from home? What was the last interaction that you two had? What did you two last communicate about? We only have your side of the story here but need to do more digging to find out the truth of the state of your relationship.

If you are left as the only common denominator, then do some inner reflecting on how you may have been coming across to your loved one and make sure it checks out with clear and concise behavior that backs up the person you're really wanting to come across as to your husband. Now is the time to be your most mature and open self. Also, before jumping to any conclusions, find out how to have a talk with your husband and give him the opportunity to put your wondering mind to rest. You do not deserve to suffer over hypotheticals about another person, what you're doing with your time is just as important.

A healthy way to get out your frustrations as well as heal from the hurt and ask any questions to your partner with self-awareness, is to write a letter. Handwrite a letter expressing how you really feel clearly and maturely and set a date to clear the air and give him a copy. This does not have to be romantic. (after all writing/spelling is a magical energetic experience and can help release many confusing emotions.)

If he accepts your letter and time and date to communicate and clear things up, then take this opportunity to stay open and listen to what he is actually saying despite how you feeling and ask questions that progress the relationship rather than those that judge and cause more friction. If he rejects your offer, then you can work on moving on from the relationship in a way that is most healthy for you with clarity on where he stands.

Many people forget they do not own their partners... but have agreed to be in a union by choice, just as much as their partner. always award freedom and air to your partner in order to free and release yourself and refrain from losing who you are and exuding your best self in the relationship.

At the end of the day, if you feel and truly believe that things can go on and get back to harmony from here, then surely it will be.

Much love to you KP!

-Truth